The Mind of the Good Man Part One

Before I begin – This series of posts are based on the mind of the GOOD man. I am not referring to those men who have serious issues that shackle them to the cycle of dysfunction. Most are good men, and by God’s good grace, most women have married good men, and these tips are for you, the wife of the good man.

Let’s begin with fact. Men are simple creatures. This fact is often lost when working to decipher the mind of the good man, however, it is the most critical fact that we as women need to remember. They are simple creatures, women are the complex ones. Men appreciate straight-forward conversations, vocalized expectations, an ego stroke and enthusiastic affection. Easy right? Let’s delve deeper with category number one: Acceptance.

1.) Acceptance

First, accept him. You’ve married this man. You fell in love with this man. He had the qualities that you were looking for in a spouse, and you said, ‘I do’. You made vows before God, to love him, to honor him, for better and for worse, for richer and poor, sickness and health. No matter what state you find yourself in today, or you find your spouse in, you promised to accept him. Those vows are the same vows today, as they were years ago. This is the marriage God gave you. You must have a level of acceptance of your state in life and a level of acceptance of your spouse before moving on to the other categories in these posts.

If you had a plan to change your man after he said, ‘I do’, good luck with that. I can assure you, it won’t happen. What will happen is frustration over the lack of acceptance he will feel from you.

Job One: next time you see him, tonight if you can, look at your husband. Take a moment, and mentally accept who you married, good attributes and faults, accept them all. This is your lot in life, for better or worse. Take him for who he is. If you never did this, even at the time of your wedding, do it now. It’s a mental job. It’s making a mental decision. All your actions from here on out will be based on accepting him for who he is. God picked him for you, and you for him. Never underestimate the genius of God. Accept God’s choice for you, as a recognition that God is in charge, and you relent fighting His choice.

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Stephani said…

I so glad I stumbled upon your blog!! I love it.
I'll be back.

fellow stay at home mom,
Steph

www.heartpondering.blogspot.com

March 19, 2010 at 10:30 AM

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