Mind of the Good Man Part IV

For the past few weeks we have been looking into the Mind of the Good Man. Catch up with Part One, Part Two and Part Three. Part Four continues below:

Men Feel

Hard to believe, but yes, they have feelings too, and his feelings are important. Every man wants to feel that we approve of them. Simple creatures, remember? A wife’s approval is as important to him as the air he breathes. If your good man, is barely surviving because of lack of approval, he suffers from emasculation. He needs his ego stroked, enthusiastic approval and encouragement. Don’t we all!? When we ask him if we look fat in this outfit, do we really expect him to say ‘yes’? No, we expect an ego stroke. We expect, ‘Honey you look wonderful’ even if we don’t look wonderful. Same goes for him, an ego stroke goes a long way to bolstering his self esteem and confidence. By complimenting him we make him feel that we approve of him….something he is always looking for. Let me tell you, a man who feels that his wife approves of him, will adore her.

Job Four: If this is new to you, start small. Give him a compliment just once a day. It could be a physical attribute he has, it could be the way he handled a situation at work or home, it could be the way he kissed you last….the list is endless. Just give him a compliment, and be sincere. Tell him how much you like that particular thing. Just a bit of stroking his ego will send a very important message, that you approve of him. It’s like giving him a breath of oxygen to last all day!

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