This is the last and final posting on The Mind of The Good Man Series. We end with Part Eight: Intimacy.
Don’t mistake me here, intimacy comes in all forms. From simple hand-holding, to a kiss, to cuddling and so forth…..intimacy is huge in the Mind of the Good Man. Most women already know this. What is missing sometimes from our understanding, is that for men, intimacy is a basic need, like food, water and oxygen. For our Good Man, intimacy with his wife sends a message that the world is ok, life is good, all is well. And it’s needed for him, just as much as conversation is needed for women. Without it, he’s handicapped. No joke. No matter what situation, without intimacy, he finds himself limited, as if we cut off an oxygen supply and he’s only functioning at 80%. Now let weeks and weeks pass by with no intimacy, and he’s down functioning at a measly 50%. Let months go by and you get the drift. He slowly slips into another world. And let me be the first to tell you, any man functioning at such low percentiles, will notice all kinds of things he never even saw before….And other aggressive women will notice those opportunities….It’s like putting a starving man in front of a steak and potatoes, and expect him not to drool.
Job Eight, the last and possibly the most difficult: Men are visual creatures. Give your Good Man something good to look at, namely you, who has been taking good care of herself. Initiate intimacy in small and big ways to keep his need filled at 100%. If your Good Man has been having cheeseburgers regularly, he won’t even notice that Big Mac that just passed him by in that short skirt. He’ll succeed not only at work, but at home as well. He’ll be a better parent, better teammate, better spouse, because you have told him, in small ways, through intimacy, that you approve, you love him, you admire him.
Now that we have covered the eight areas of the Mind of the Good Man….with all eight jobs included….remember, it is an effort on our part to understand him and his needs, and those needs are simple. It’s love, admiration, approval, respect and gratitude. The power to transform your Good Man and your Good Marriage into a Great Man and a Great Marriage, is within your grasp, but there is a bit of work to start the journey. After a while, it won’t be work anymore. It becomes a natural way of life, filling the needs of those you love. It just becomes your way to show Love…..and your rewards for showing your love, will be fantastic.
**This series of posts were inspired by these below books. When you purchase something through this site, it helps us a lot!
Don’t mistake me here, intimacy comes in all forms. From simple hand-holding, to a kiss, to cuddling and so forth…..intimacy is huge in the Mind of the Good Man. Most women already know this. What is missing sometimes from our understanding, is that for men, intimacy is a basic need, like food, water and oxygen. For our Good Man, intimacy with his wife sends a message that the world is ok, life is good, all is well. And it’s needed for him, just as much as conversation is needed for women. Without it, he’s handicapped. No joke. No matter what situation, without intimacy, he finds himself limited, as if we cut off an oxygen supply and he’s only functioning at 80%. Now let weeks and weeks pass by with no intimacy, and he’s down functioning at a measly 50%. Let months go by and you get the drift. He slowly slips into another world. And let me be the first to tell you, any man functioning at such low percentiles, will notice all kinds of things he never even saw before….And other aggressive women will notice those opportunities….It’s like putting a starving man in front of a steak and potatoes, and expect him not to drool.
Job Eight, the last and possibly the most difficult: Men are visual creatures. Give your Good Man something good to look at, namely you, who has been taking good care of herself. Initiate intimacy in small and big ways to keep his need filled at 100%. If your Good Man has been having cheeseburgers regularly, he won’t even notice that Big Mac that just passed him by in that short skirt. He’ll succeed not only at work, but at home as well. He’ll be a better parent, better teammate, better spouse, because you have told him, in small ways, through intimacy, that you approve, you love him, you admire him.
Now that we have covered the eight areas of the Mind of the Good Man….with all eight jobs included….remember, it is an effort on our part to understand him and his needs, and those needs are simple. It’s love, admiration, approval, respect and gratitude. The power to transform your Good Man and your Good Marriage into a Great Man and a Great Marriage, is within your grasp, but there is a bit of work to start the journey. After a while, it won’t be work anymore. It becomes a natural way of life, filling the needs of those you love. It just becomes your way to show Love…..and your rewards for showing your love, will be fantastic.
**This series of posts were inspired by these below books. When you purchase something through this site, it helps us a lot!
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