Mind of The Good Man Part Seven

We are nearing the end! We have been looking into the Mind of the Good Man. If you've missed anything, catch up with Acceptance: Part One. This is an absolute must. We have to accept him.

Time: Two. Finding a few minutes of the day might be work, but it's worth it!

Good Job and Thank You: Three, which are key qualities every man wants in his wife, namely praise and gratitude.

Men Feel: Four, Yes, they do, they just might not show it as much as we do.

Communication: Five which is no surprise, but with understanding, communication isn't a puzzle to figure out.

Respect: Six All men want to be the King of their Castle.....and that doesn't threaten us, or our position, it's just simply giving him what every person deserves, a little respect.

Part Seven is Guy Time

Just like our Girls’ Night Out, men also need ‘Guy Time’. Perhaps he has a hobby or a group of friends that he likes to hang out with. Allow that time. Men find great camaraderie with other men, they support each other, in silent ways, but nevertheless so important. It's like their Band of Brothers....they need each other, the world, the fight can be tough, they need to be around others that 'get that'.

If we have been doing all the jobs outlined previously in the Mind of the Good Man, from Job One to Job Six….trust me, he won’t need as much guy time….he’ll LOVE coming home to you! AND, if you have been doing Jobs 1-6, trust me, his status among his friends elevates considerably. He walks into a room with his head held high, and his friends know why…because that Good Man, has a great wife, who loves him, and allows for him to be The Man. Men take notice of these things. It’s hard to believe, but they know which of their group is admired by his wife….and that’s a status symbol more powerful than that awesome car he drives or the latest promotion at work. Ask him yourself. You’ll be amazed at his response.

Job Seven: Allow for his Guy Time. Once a month is perfectly acceptable, as a woman often needs this monthly outing herself. If your Good Man is already out more often than that, perfect your Jobs 1-6 a bit more. If your Good Man isn’t getting out at all, encourage it. Perhaps every two months or so, encourage him to get out with his buddies, go paintballing, to a football game, golf or something he enjoys. Men have to be allowed to be men, so when they come home they’ll see, 'My Good Woman is worth the fight'.

Domo Arigato Gozaimasu Nihon - Thank You Japan

First, I apologize. It's almost been a week since my last post, and life certainly has a way to take me over. Arigato Gozaimasu - Thank You We have many commitments, many places where we have promised our time and energy, and when sickness sets in for me or anyone in our home, life pretty much stops....for little while anyway. Thankfully, the illnesses are down to minor colds, and as of yesterday, I am off the meds to treat a sinus infection. But that's not all. It's re-enrollment time at school, and every March we face the same uncertain future in debate...Can we swing yet another year's worth of financial commitment to our Catholic school, for four children. It's a stressful time, it's uncertain, and I have to say, that security is something I thrive on. Any insecurity, and I tell you, life just isn't right. With the children unaware of our finessing the budget, we work to keep that calm and peace that assures the children all will be well.

Words Can Hurt

When we first started having children, like most people, we realized quickly how they often work as a mirror to our own actions. Letting a swear word slip here or there was not uncommon in our home, yet, when our first child was about 18 months or so, and hearing my swear word echo in the house for several days from her little lips, well, it was enough to curb my speech, dramatically. And now, swear words are never spoken in front of the children, and we have adopted a few more words that are unacceptable in the house, even though common place in the world. Just another example at how, as parents, we truly are the domestic church. The world may be on the path of negativity, but the home is where we make the difference. My four year old the other day, said, "I hate tomatoes!" Not the worst thing to hear from her mouth, granted, however, the word 'hate' bothers me a lot. 'Hate' is a very strong word, opposite of 'Love'. Think of how strong that word,

Little Guys and Big Things

Sometimes, Veggie Tales stick with you. Even when an 8 year old seems too old for Veggie Tale stories, and reluctantly watches a few, the messages do stick. Over the weekend, my Knight was to serve Mass. For the past few Sundays he has been serving, and we keep reminding him of the various ways to show reverence while doing his duties.....a bow to the tabernacle, folding of the hands and so forth. Sunday, I happened to be watching Knight lather his gel in his hair to ready for Mass, and I once again, reminded him to keep his reverent ways about him while serving. He made a distinct face at me, and said, "Ugh, Mom, those other server boys are bigger than me. I don't want to do something they aren't doing." "I understand, but you could set the example, because you know, what you are doing is the right thing." He shook his head, looked at himself in the mirror, and seeing his own image reflected, said again, "I'm the youngest one there, Mom

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