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Mind of The Good Man Part Six

For the past few weeks we have been looking into the Mind of the Good Man. Catch up with Part One, Part Two, Three, Four and Part Five.  We continue now, with Part Six:  R - E - S - P - E - C - T.....Find Out What It Means To Him! (Yes, singing Aretha right now)!




Respect

Every man wants to feel like the King of his castle. Disrespect is very damaging to the Mind of the Good Man, especially in front of others, and others means: your children, your parents, his parents, your siblings, his siblings…EVERYONE. If there are things that you need to discuss, you disagree with etc, then do it in private. Never subject your Good Man to your disapproval in front of others. Not only does it put those other people in conflict, and in an uncomfortable situation, it portrays your Good Man, as something worthy of disrespect. If tables were turned, how would you feel? He simply wants to be your hero and be treated as such in public.

Job Six: In front of others, especially your children, show him the love and admiration you have for him. If something needs to be addressed, do it when you get home, or after the kids are in bed. It shows great maturity in a relationship when the two involved can back-burner an issue in front of others, and deal with it later. What ever the issue, it’s never worth it to air dirty laundry, especially in the Mind of the Good Man.

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